Getting Our Needs Met

Technically it’s still Monday…so I didn’t lie when I said I’d have an update for you today on our big move.

I have a theory as to why writing has been so difficult for me over the past few months. Yes, I have had computer issues and also time constraints associate with raising four small children {cause that’s not a lot, right}…but it goes beyond that.

Sitting down, faced with a blank page, I freeze.

In college I took an early childhood development class. One of the topics we covered was Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (stay with me, I have a point).

The theory is that there are different levels to our needs, and that the foundational basics need to be covered before moving on to the higher levels.


Food, air, water, sleep…those are the physiological needs that form the base of the pyramid. Moving upward you come to security needs, social needs, esteem needs, and end with the need for self-actualization {i.e. narcissistic desire to share your every thought and experience with the world at large, otherwise known as blogging}.

Leading up to our move from Southern California, and even more after we’d arrived, my brain was focused on seeking God and casting our nets for God’s will. I needed our bottom-of-the-pyramid met.

It has not been a fluid transition. Weeks with a decision dangling in front of us, would suddenly end in a day’s time and we’d leap forward five spaces; only to find ourselves once again in a period of waiting.

Any attempt to create a coherent picture of what our life is like now was impossible, because everything would flip upside-down-inside-out before I hit publish. However, I feel that a number of things are concrete, and I’m excited to share what God has done in our life and is continuing to do…

Physiological Needs {water, air, food, sleep}

Obviously in Washington, we are enjoying quite a bit of rain water. My children are still confused about breathing this air that they can’t see, but their lungs will thank them when they get older. Josh and I spent the first couple of weeks back rediscovering all of our favorite food haunts, and then overdosed on Tums.

Sleep? What’s that?

Security Needs {steady employment, shelter from the environment, etc}

Josh is working for a friend of ours, learning all sorts of home construction skills {I plan to take full advantage of that once we purchase our own home someday}. It’s not at all what we envisioned him doing, but it’s providing income and he really enjoys it.

Ministry-wise, he is volunteering in the youth group at our church…also something he did not expect. We’ve always been more “college age” people {meaning we don’t have the patience for jr. and sr. highers}. God has definitely directed him towards that ministry though, and it will be interesting to see what comes of it.

Also on the out-of-left-field platter is the fact that I am working. Yesterday I was officially presented to the congregation as the children’s pastor of our new church! Again, this was not at all on our radar when we moved, but God orchestrated the timing of this transition so perfectly, and I can see now how He has equipped me for this ministry.

If you follow me on Twitter or Facebook, you know that we were debating between two houses. After much prayer, debate and even a coin toss, we signed a lease on a home close to our church. We are scheduled to move in October 1st, and we know that will be a huge milestone in our children feeling settled in Washington.

The same day that we signed the lease, I rushed to the elementary school down the street to sign the kids up for school. They had their first day, two weeks late, and they are finally starting to get the hang of it. Eli’s ecstatic about having two recesses, and Cora has made friends with all the girls who own cute shoes.

Social Needs {belonging, love, affection}

Watching our children bond with their grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins has been amazing! It took a little while for them to warm up {especially my introvert, Ezra}, but things are progressing smoothly. Yesterday we dedicated Ezra and Silas at church, and we had a three-row cheering section! I wanted to cry.

In addition to family, we have been able to connect with old friends, and new friends known only through social networking. Life is full, and God has provided us with an amazing, supportive community!

Did I miss anything? Just leave a question in the comments and I’ll try to be more prompt in my replies that I have been in the past month.





11 thoughts on “Getting Our Needs Met

  1. This is an awesome and much appreciated update Melissa. You and Josh have been in my prayers. So glad to hear that God is taking care of your needs (all of them) in His way and His time. both in ministry and loving it. What can be greater? Okay…so there are a few things but you know what I mean. :) Prayers will continue. Since I don’t do Twitter or fb this is welcomed. Thanks.

    1. Bill, I have always appreciated your prayers for us, and I’m glad I was finally able to update you on what God has been doing in us.

      And what could be greater? Hmm…how about adding in a brownie sundae and then things will be just great! :)

  2. This makes so much sense on so many levels in things I have felt in the past year since our move back from South Africa.

    Thanks so much for sharing your heart here…..and finding the words.
    I feel encouraged this morning!

    1. The transition from one west coast state to another has been rough for us, I can’t imagine what one continent to another must be like! Have you found that you’re still working through the transition, even a year later? Were there any things that were unexpectedly difficult for you in the transition? I’d love to hear more!

  3. This is AWESOME Melissa! So proud of you :) it has been so encouraging watching you guys make this move… and such a blessing watching how God has shown up for you in so many ways. You are both going thru big changes, so sometimes you just need to take a break from teh flickering pixels to get your head around a new life and then you can reengage when you feel like it :)

    So excited for you!

    1. Jenny, I love those random moments when I get to catch up with your blog. I’m looking forward to the stability that will come in having our own place so that I can reconnect with all of my online friends. :) Thanks for always being so encouraging!

    1. He has! I’m very interested to see what else is coming down the pipeline, though. :) And, {like I said to Jenny} I really need to catch up on what’s been happening in your life. I saw you’re moving, but that’s pretty much all I know.

  4. I can’t even tell you how excited I am for you and your family! I know that taking such a big step of faith wasn’t easy, but God has such an amazing plan for you guys. You are in my thoughts and prayers daily! Love you!

  5. I’m just selfishly excited that you’ll be living and working in a 2 mile radius of my house!!! So excited to hear about all the nitty gritty details when we get a chance to align our calendars. :)

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