a well-placed {period}

Saying the first, keeps you from saying the second.

What’s your best relationship advice?

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  1. I would just piggy-back on your thoughts with this one: Learn to say both of them with sincerity and regularity.

    1. Melissa says:

      With sincerity…

      That’s key, right? Thanks, Bill!

      1. Absolutely Melissa. Lots of people say both of those statements but with no meaning or feeling.

  2. Lynnette says:

    You are not always right

    1. Lynnette says:

      even if you are right

    2. Melissa says:

      Ooh! That was a hard one to learn!

  3. Eric Timm says:

    When we were engaged some old lady told Amber at work, that I would not be a mind reader, we both have really taken that to heart. I would like to find that lady and kiss her.

    1. Melissa says:

      That might be detrimental to your marriage. :) But the first part of the advice is sound. Haha!

  4. nancyljk says:

    Choose thy love; Love thy choice! Old Amish Proverb; makes perfect sense as it implies being prayerful in the choosing and faithful in the follow through.

    1. Melissa says:

      I like that! The verse from Song of Solomon about not awakening love until it desired was always one I turned to while dating; it’s in the same vein as this proverb. Thanks, Nancy!

  5. Dana says:

    Advice from my grandma.. “speak the words you want to hear”

    1. Melissa says:

      So…I need to tell Josh he’s beautiful and no, his butt doesn’t look big?

      Haha! Just kidding. Great advice!

  6. dustin says:

    There is an enemy out there, and it is not your wife.

    1. Melissa says:

      Or your husband! It took us a while to learn that lesson in our disagreements. Thanks, Dustin!

  7. Ben says:

    Everything before “but” is a lie, stay away.

    1. Melissa says:

      I think I understand…could you explain that one a little more? Thanks!

      1. Ben says:

        “I’m Sorry, but what had happened was…”

        Basically, if you’re sorry, be sorry without feeling you have to explain. Don’t follow your “sorry” with a “but.”

        1. Melissa says:

          Got it! That’s great advice. I know I’ve been guilty of that a few times in the past. :)

  8. Moe says:

    Listen! nuff said. I am awful at it.

    1. Melissa says:

      Huh? What’d you say?

      Teehee…just joking. :) So simple, yet so difficult. Thanks, Moe!

  9. Justin says:

    Empathy for the other person. Yeah, that’s good.

    1. Melissa says:

      That is good!

  10. Janelle says:

    I thought this post was going to be about a different kind of period.

    1. Melissa says:

      Bwahahah! I wondered if anyone would think that. :)

  11. Jason says:

    Don’t lie.

    1. Melissa says:

      Yes!! Trust is hard to earn back…

  12. jasonS says:

    I was pleasantly surprised when I read this post and realized it had nothing to do with a woman’s monthly visitor. :) Other than that, nothing to add. Great post, Melissa.

    1. Melissa says:

      No! I would never!!

  13. Keri says:

    I love this post! I love this idea! I love these words! LOVE LOVE LOVE!

    I wanna try! :P

    1. Melissa says:

      Thanks, Keri. :)

  14. Duane Scott says:

    FAVORITE post. :)

    I have no advice.

    I’m like a fetus at marriage advice giving. :0

    1. Melissa says:

      Now is the time where you just soak it all in. It was so good for my marriage to have couples around us who’d been married longer than us. They were the ones who could say, “This is normal. You’ll get through it. Don’t give up.”

  15. Craig says:

    That’s brilliant. The pictures are art. I always heart your words – today fewer words – but lots of impact. God bless you and your Melissa.

    1. Melissa says:

      Thank you, Craig! I always appreciate it when you stop by here. :)

  16. Sharon O says:

    I love this post for many reasons, someone in my ‘life’ very close to me needs to say, ‘I am sorry’… from their heart.
    They refuse to do it and the words spoken; before thought out caused intense hurt in my heart. Can it ever heal? I am not sure.
    Knowing we hurt someone should be the first clue we need to do something about it. It’s in the knowing~ where we are responsible.

    1. Melissa says:

      I’m sorry you’ve been hurt by someone close to you. I believe it can heal, whether or not the person who hurt you apologizes. God is bigger than your hurts and fears; He can bring healing to your heart.

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