It’s Monday morning, which means Josh is back at work, Eli’s at school and I’m home with the three younger kids. I have dishes leftover from the weekend, dirty laundry piled up in my room and an empty refrigerator that needs restocking. The thought of it all exhausts me.
I wish I had the option of dropping my kids off at one of their grandma’s for a few hours to complete my tasks. I wish I had a fellow SAHM to come over and ignore the tasks with me as our children play together.
I wish I wasn’t alone.
Do you feel like this? It might not look exactly like mine, but do these thoughts of isolation and loneliness plague you like they do me? I think we’d be surprised to find how common these feelings are.
Last week I was chatting with a friend online; someone I view as social, outgoing, and engaged with others. In fact, in my loneliness I have frequently looked at her as an example of someone I wished my situation was more similar too. She seems to have so many friends and people to interact with. I envied her.
Imagine my surprise when, in the midst of the conversation, she expressed the same lonely feelings I have. I never would have expected that of her.
And it helped to know that I’m not as alone as I think I am.
I don’t think this topic applies to just SAHMs. Regardless of gender, age, employment, marital status, whatever; we all have moments when we feel isolated and alone. Times where we compare our current situation with those of others, and find it lacking.
And I think this is exactly what Satan wants. For us to feel alone, separated, forgotten and obsolete. He uses situations in our past to impact our relationships in the present. He takes advantage of our sinful natures to keep us from building healthy relationships. He divides us into cliques with what appear to be insurmountable barriers between us.
And I want to talk about it this week.
I’d love for you to join me as I take a look at loneliness. I’ll show what purpose there is for Satan in us feeling lonely. I will discuss some of the relationship killers I’ve discovered in my own life. I’ll show how my faith has taught me to change how I behave in relationships. Lastly, I’ll talk about looking outside our clique/box to discover those relationships that God has waiting for us.
I’m not a relationship expert, but I am in relationships. I’m doing this partly because I want to combat my own feelings of loneliness, and partly because it helped me to know I wasn’t alone, and know it will help others as well.
I’ve been praying about this topic and know God has a lot to say to us!
So, I’ll see you back here tomorrow for Part Two.