Fear, Perfectionism & Love

Today the Faith Community over at Bonnie’s place are jamming about Perfectionism. I encourage you to take a minute today to check out what others are sharing there!

For me, perfectionism comes down to fear.

My desire to be a perfect wife is based in my fear that if I am not everything Josh needs he will leave me.

My pursuit of perfection in parenting is rooted in my fear that if I make a mistake my children will be scarred for life.

My need to have my home look perfect revolves around the fear that you will judge and reject me if you come to my house and find it lacking.

My work for perfectionism in all that I do is entangled in my idea that people accept and care about me for what I do and not for who I am.

My guilt, my strivings, my rules, my self-criticism lies fully in my misguided belief that I need to be the perfect Christian for God so He doesn’t regret sending His Son for me.

Perfectionism also places fear in me. Fear to step out in new ways, risk it all, and move forward because it might not turn out perfect.

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. {1 John 4:18}

The answer to all of this is love. If I believe I’m loved by my husband, my children, my friends and family, and — most of all — by God, the striving for perfectionism can end.

How does perfectionism show up in your life?

Do you find that it holds you back in your relationships and experiences?

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I Quit

I quit…

…worrying about what is ahead.

…feeling shame about what is behind.

…acting like I have attained perfection.

…burying my fears, hurts and insecurities.

…saying I’m ok when I’m not.

…stressing about what others think of me.

…trying to be God.

…seeking to earn others approval and affection.

…caring about site views, comments and stats.

…striving for the goals I have set, rather than the plans of God.

…comparing myself to others.

…fearing relationships with other women.

…holding on to bitterness.

…conforming to the ways of this world.

Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold new things have come. {2 Corinthians 5:17}

What do you quit?

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Linking up today with Bonnie

and Emily

OH…and…I’m posting this to enter a contest offered by MeridaHome at Design For Mankind! I want to win the iPad 2! (please don’t click the link because I want to win…haha!)